First and foremost – my friend Jen did a presentation at Ignite Seattle! She deserves credit for the inspiration of this post. Particularly since she did all the work anyway!
The last time Jen and I got together we had a chat about the Stay At Home Mom versus Employed Career Mom…
sidebar – what the hell do you call mom’s that work at companies that pay them salaries and give benefits and such for their work? because SAHMs – they *are* working moms too, so it doesn’t quite feel right to label myself that. and by no means do I imply a SAHM isn’t employed or have a career. let’s not rat hole here shall we?
Our discussion was around this unspoken/spoken/ignored/acknowledged divide between the two types of moms. Particularly seen in the Mommy Blog space. Seems each camp has some beef with the other. Making judgments about not being a good mom, setting the wrong example for the children, blah blah blah. Gawd almighty!! Do women need yet another category to create a chasm between us? Can’t we support each other in choice? Believe you and me – I could not do what SAHMs do. I totally respect women that raise their families in that fashion.
So I watched the video the day it was published. I really enjoyed Jen’s approach and her thoughts on sanity hacks. I thought about it through the day, how particular passages were not only funny, but SO freaking true! Example – I have seen Finding Nemo so many times, there have been entire screenings that I only watched one character the entire time. Boy those Pixar people are masters at their craft!
The next day I had a different thought.
I could take that same deck, change up the pictures, replace one or two words – and do the presentation from the Employed Career Mom point-of-view. Really, each thing Jen focuses on to stay sane, I do the same thing to some degree. The story would just be a bit modified.
Can we stop fighting against each other and start fighting together?
Maybe then – we can unite and get some REAL food in the school lunches. Not the pre-packaged crap they serve now. Maybe we could pool resources and networks and make the PTA unstoppable. We should all show up at Olympia (or your respective capitals) and demand the kinds of laws, programs and initiatives that will protect our families, enrich our lives – and not have to battle for every 4 years or every budget shortfall. (don’t get me started – school budget is another post all together!)
So really girls – we aren’t all that different are we? Just stop and think about it ok?